Denver Colorado Family Therapist Casey Ryan

Denver Colorado Family Therapist Casey Ryan

Casey M. Ryan, MA began studying Psychology in 1997 at Wayne State University in Detroit, Michigan. Since then he has received his Masters from Argosy University of Denver and opened his own private practice Spectrum Therapy, LLC that provides Individual, Couple, & “Family” Therapy, GLBTIQ

Salt Lake City Utah Family Therapist Dr. Jonathan Swinton, PhD, LMFT

Salt Lake City Utah Family Therapist Dr. Jonathan Swinton, PhD, LMFT

Dr. Swinton has a masters degree and a PhD in marriage and family therapy. He is a licensed marriage and family therapist. He specializes in helping individuals, families, and couples with a host of relationship issues. He strives to do what he can to help family relationships weather the storms of life.

Burleson Texas Family Therapist Malinda Fasol

Burleson Texas Family Therapist Malinda Fasol

Malinda Fasol is a licensed professional counselor serving Tarrant and Johnson Counties. She works with families with various issues such as stepfamilies, blended families, and conflict-resolution. Dr. Fasol educates families about boundaries, communication styles, and parenting styles.

Ardmore Pennsylvania Family Therapist Dr. Judy Jackson

Ardmore Pennsylvania Family Therapist Dr. Judy Jackson

Dr. Judy Jackson has been a therapist for over 25 years, serving clients in Philadelphia’s main line communities. she specializes in treating couples issues, family and teen issues, as well as individual problems such as anxiety and depression. Her primary interest is in working collaboratively with clients to address their difficulties by creating workable solutions to individual and relationship issues.

Bethel Park Pennsylvania Family Therapist Stephen Luther

Bethel Park Pennsylvania Family Therapist Stephen Luther

Grace Wellness Center is a group practice where our counselors all incorporate a faith based counseling approach with sound clinical practice. Our goal is to help people be emotionally, relationally and spiritually healthy. We offer counseling in many convenient locations throughout Western PA and accept most insurance plans.

Greensburg Pennsylvania Family Therapist Lorin Zimmerman

Greensburg Pennsylvania Family Therapist Lorin Zimmerman

Grace Wellness Center is a group practice where our counselors all incorporate a faith based counseling approach with sound clinical practice. Our goal is to help people be emotionally, relationally and spiritually healthy. We offer counseling in many convenient locations throughout Western PA and accept most insurance plans.

North Huntingdon Pennsylvania Family Therapist Stephen Luther

North Huntingdon Pennsylvania Family Therapist Stephen Luther

Grace Wellness Center is a group practice where our counselors all incorporate a faith based counseling approach with sound clinical practice. Our goal is to help people be emotionally, relationally and spiritually healthy. We offer counseling in many convenient locations throughout Western PA and accept most insurance plans.

North Huntingdon Pennsylvania Family Therapist Beth Allen

North Huntingdon Pennsylvania Family Therapist Beth Allen

Grace Wellness Center is a group practice where our counselors all incorporate a faith based counseling approach with sound clinical practice. Our goal is to help people be emotionally, relationally and spiritually healthy. We offer counseling in many convenient locations throughout Western PA and accept most insurance plans.

New Kensington Pennsylvania Family Therapist Nicole Dericks

New Kensington Pennsylvania Family Therapist Nicole Dericks

Grace Wellness Center is a group practice where our counselors all incorporate a faith based counseling approach with sound clinical practice. Our goal is to help people be emotionally, relationally and spiritually healthy. We offer counseling in many convenient locations throughout Western PA and accept most insurance plans.

Self-Talk: What Are You Telling Yourself?

Self-Talk: What Are You Telling Yourself?

Guest Blog Post by Krystal Kuehn, MA, LPC, LLP, NCC

Have you ever listened in on your own self-talk? Most self-talk is our way of evaluating ourselves in some way. We gauge our feelings, experiences, work, and our lives. We decide what is good or bad; and what is acceptable or to be thrown out. Many people give themselves negative evaluations. They might call themselves “lazy,” “stupid,” or some other negative label. Maybe you talk to yourself that way also. You might not realize at the time that this negative self talk is damaging to your self-esteem, in fact you may not even think anything of it at the time.

From the time we are born we are evaluated, judged and labeled. We receive both positive and negative feedback about our performance, traits, and habits. We are told what we did right and what we did wrong. We constantly receive messages of approval and disapproval. All of this shapes our identity and determines what we believe about ourselves. Eventually, we repeat to ourselves the messages that we’ve heard and now believe.

Both positive and negative messages have a tremendous influence on a person’s self-esteem as well as their attitude. Think of a time when you were encouraged and strengthened to believe in yourself as a result of someone’s positive feedback and faith in you. Conversely, imagine a time when you lost your confidence and felt like giving up because you believed a negative message of criticism and defeat.

No one likes to be negatively evaluated, judged or put down. Yet, it is all too common to focus on what is wrong with ourselves and others instead of what is right; and, to overlook strengths and worth. As a result, many end up feeling that they fall short. And, they spend their lives trying to live up to certain standards in order to feel good about who they are and what they are capable of.

Everyone needs to feel intrinsic value and worth. Everyone has strengths, assets, potential, intrinsic beauty and worth. If we look for these things and all that is good in ourselves and others we will find them. We can make a conscious choice to set aside our negative evaluations, judgments and criticism. We can compliment instead of criticize, defend instead of blame, build up instead of tear down, and accept and love instead of judge or reject. Much of whether or not we will do these things depends on the kinds of messages we listen to and believe.

We aren’t required to keep playing over and over those old messages that leave us with negative labels and discouraging self-talk. But the only way you will be able to stop hearing them is to begin listening to messages of encouragement and hope. We want to hear the truth in love. Messages of simple acceptance of who you are, messages that help you see yourself as valuable, special, and worthy, and messages that build you up to believe in yourself can become louder and louder as we begin to speak them to ourselves and others.

Written by Krystal Kuehn, MA, LPC, LLP, NCC, one of the many talented family therapists on Familytherapyfinder.com Copyright © 2012 All Rights Reserved